Bullies vs Supporters

If you follow me on Facebook, you may have seen my very raw, real, and emotional video Friday night about the bullying and personal attacks that have happened to me over the past few weeks. (if you missed it, you can watch it HERE….. be warned it’s about 20 minutes long and I use a lot of f-bombs)I wanted to reach out and THANK each and every one of you that took the time to comment on the video or send me a personal message. Your words meant the world to me. The support and encouragement I have received from so many of you shows me that you all “got my back“!

The fact that these attacks have come from others in the TBI community is a bit unsettling. I realize that we all have different cognitive problems, and some lack filters and awareness, but at the core we should ALL have a moral compass and understand right from wrong. We should never want to inflict harm on others.My integrity and intentions were questioned and attacked by other TBI’ers. Anyone who has taken the time to know me understands that my passion is what drives me. I was treated poorly by family and friends when I first had my brain injury….. this led me to start writing….. which led me on this crazy and amazing journey of TBI awareness and advocacy.

To accuse me of scamming or taking advantage of other TBI folks is slander…… and at their core they have to know it is untrue. Shame on them for stooping so low. To accuse me of not actually having a brain injury is just plain ignorance….. making them no better than the person who has flung accusations at them.I do what I do because I am passionate about helping other TBI’ers know they’re not alone — to inspire them and instill hope. Also to help the world understand the reality of this invisible injury that affects MILLIONS of us each year around the globe.

Here is a wonderful acronym that many have shared with me this weekend, it applies in both spoken and written word (especially on the internet, when words can be mistaken).

Before you speak/write, THINK:
T = is it true?
H – is it hurtful?
I = is it inspiring?
N = is it necessary?
K = is it kind?

The choice is simple: if you don’t like me….. leave me!
unsubscribe from my newsletter, remove yourself from the TBI Tribe, unfriend me on Facebook, stop following me on social media — do any or all of these… but DO NOT attack me. This negative energy serves no one, the attacker included. Negativity breeds negativity. Instead of trying to tear someone down, let’s all lift each other up.   

{Building Amy’s Empire}

Some asshat accused me of trying to build an empire…. so instead of letting that word harm me, I am going to use it to empower me! 

I was encouraged by several of my supporters to create a “dream team” of other TBI’ers who WANT to help me spread awareness and WANT to help me succeed as an advocate. If this is YOU….. comment below!!!!!

Let’s turn some lemons into lemonade and show those haters what we’re made of!! (what’s that saying about “safety in numbers”?!?)

19 thoughts on “Bullies vs Supporters

  1. Let’s do this! You know I got your back. Let the jealous be jealous, let the haters, hate. But let us thrive and survive! Nothing can stop us from changing the world for the better!

  2. I have alway believed in you and what you are doing to help us, by opening the tbi world not only to us but others who have problems understanding us and tbi. (Sometimes it’s hard to express what I want to say all because of my tbi , but I try). Thank you for sharing your strength, your kindness,and the wisdom you have learned through you journey. I BELIEVE IN YOU AND KEEP UP THE GREAT WORK! !!

  3. I definitely be willing to aid in this endeavor. As a 35 year survivir of a pretty serious brain injury with some literary ability I think I could be an asset to your team.

  4. I think you are doing some fantastic work Amy. It takes energy and passion. Do you speak at the State Brain Injury Conferences? I see a real need for someone to represent the TBI person at these meetings.

  5. I would be happy to be part of your dream team. Be an adcocate, share and support others living with an invisible disability. I still struggle with my family who believe injury is old and any problems that remain are an excuse. I recovered alone, i have a good life and ģood job and would be more than happy to help others know that life does go on. I feel it’s a blessing given to us, as i soldier on through life with a TBI 😊

  6. So True!! As a TBI patient I know what you are going through. I had family members tell me I must be “crazy” or I needed another bullet to the head and were “normal” people. Please do not let the negative people get you down. They are the ones who need a dose of reality or God forbid a TBI of their own.

  7. I would love to be an advocate and help you spread awareness of TBI.
    Before I had to stop working because of my injury, I was an R.N. for 42 years and believe me when I tell you a lot of the medical community has NO knowledge of post concussive syndrome. It would give me a purpose to help others again. it was my greatest joy as a nurse to feel I made a difference. You and the tribe have made a difference for me and I would love to pay it forward..

  8. Amy…you are a true inspirational, compassionate thriver!!….
    so very sad and hurtful that you experienced such bullying, shame and blame…..that you did not deserve!!…
    know you are surrounded by gold light and much love!!!…..🌹❤️

  9. i will definitely be on your dream team. i wrote a huge comment on your video last night…then my ipad died and it was lost. but…it was exactly what you said here. i actually remember it!
    i said: next time you get bullied, hand them over to me. not to bully them, that would stooping to their level, but to share my story and remark about how much you helped me through a very dark and troubling time. then i will pass them to another tribe member, etc and so on! you mean so much to me that i am now crying. ❤️❤️❤️ i will always have your back!

  10. I would LOVE story be part of building an empowering empire to inspire support and help TBI people – I am IN!!

  11. Please allow me to be a member of the dream team. I have learned so much from the members on Facebook. I am thankful to have found this group. I would like the opportunity to be more of an impact with encouraging words and offering hope.

  12. Hi Amy, in my life I’ve learned that one way to you know when you’re doing some really good effective work is when the critics start to get verbal and mean. The hurtful element of this is that the source of the criticism is very often surprising. So, my challenge to you Amy is to see the criticism in this context knowing that you’re really onto something when the daggers come out. Keep going , you’re being tested as you will be in the pursuit of any worthwhile mission.

  13. I would love more opportunity to be an educator, advocate, and encourager to those with TBI’s and to everyone else as they either know someone with a TBI or are a potential receiver of one (because no one is exempt from the possibility of this injury). Please include me!

  14. I think the work you do is amazing. Your articles on Huffington Post helped me understand what I was going through after my injury and pointed me in the direction of the TBI Tribe. I would have been a bit lost without these resources! Keep it up Amy, we appreciate it.

    I’m interested in being an advocate and joining “Amy’s Empire.” Side note, the concept of “Amy’s Empire” reminds me of “Dumbledore’s Army” in Harry Potter. I like it 🙂

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